GROWING UP

'Grow up!'
How often do men hear this from women (usually not without considerable justification)? Well, now a man is saying the same, especially to the NotAllMen crowd and such as they, not to mention those who actually do harass and threaten women.
I don't choose those two words idly or capriciously, either. I mean them in a very real sense, viz First, I suspect that a lot of the male bile over this comes from men who, as boys, were ruled by women whose 'default' setting towards them included 'do not believe; side with those for whom he makes trouble' or something like that. This is not something of which men speak openly, so I may be starting something.Second, I wonder how many class A p***ks, to use an epithet to which my dad was partial, are now exacting vengeance with the women they threaten and exploit, for being mistreated in that way when they could do nothing about it. In either case, the 'grow up' advice applies. Let it sink in that you really are the grownups now and that the women before you are NOT your (fill in the blanks), nor are they stand-ins for them. You've been subject to abusive power before; why will you mimic what was done to you instead of showing yourself better--yea verily, showing yourself a REAL MAN by using your power wisely, judiciously, and not oppressively?
Twelve years ago, an employee of ours (my late first wife and I) accused me of harassment. There was absolutely NO truth in anything she said and indeed her attraction was to her own sex, which is why my wife had a 'creepy' feeling about her. But she wanted to blame me for my wife's non-response towards her. I was acquitted eleven years ago; the local police were familiar with this woman as a bringer of seriously wacky charges against others. Now let me ask you ladies: all this notwithstanding, how many of you have a 'guilty' default setting toward anyone against whom such charges are brought? Seriously. Take some time answering here; your answers are important.
Nine years ago, my late first wife and I visited a woman with remarkable psycho-spiritual 'sight'. She asked me then, "Why are you still so tied to your ******?" I barely understood the question then; now I know I understand at least a bit more. And that 'guilty' default setting is partly why I feel we ought to teach our boys to never, never, never touch a woman before she touches you and all nonverbal 'signals' be DAMNED--I mean that quite literally! Teach our sons to be masters of their own hormones and make no move from them except if she moves first and does so unmistakably! Even without the ache from my early life that seems like a very good idea; feel free to weigh in on that too.
How about you, brothers? Ready to grow up, or grow further? Let's go together.