GROWING UP

'Grow up!'
How often do men hear this from women (usually not without considerable justification)? Well, now a man is saying the same, especially to the NotAllMen crowd and such as they, not to mention those who actually do harass and threaten women.
I don't choose those two words idly or capriciously, either. I mean them in a very real sense, viz First, I suspect that a lot of the male bile over this comes from men who, as boys, were ruled by women whose 'default' setting towards them included 'do not believe; side with those for whom he makes trouble' or something like that. This is not something of which men speak openly, so I may be starting something.Second, I wonder how many class A p***ks, to use an epithet to which my dad was partial, are now exacting vengeance with the women they threaten and exploit, for being mistreated in that way when they could do nothing about it. In either case, the 'grow up' advice applies. Let it sink in that you really are the grownups now and that the women before you are NOT your (fill in the blanks), nor are they stand-ins for them. You've been subject to abusive power before; why will you mimic what was done to you instead of showing yourself better--yea verily, showing yourself a REAL MAN by using your power wisely, judiciously, and not oppressively?
Twelve years ago, an employee of ours (my late first wife and I) accused me of harassment. There was absolutely NO truth in anything she said and indeed her attraction was to her own sex, which is why my wife had a 'creepy' feeling about her. But she wanted to blame me for my wife's non-response towards her. I was acquitted eleven years ago; the local police were familiar with this woman as a bringer of seriously wacky charges against others. Now let me ask you ladies: all this notwithstanding, how many of you have a 'guilty' default setting toward anyone against whom such charges are brought? Seriously. Take some time answering here; your answers are important.
Nine years ago, my late first wife and I visited a woman with remarkable psycho-spiritual 'sight'. She asked me then, "Why are you still so tied to your ******?" I barely understood the question then; now I know I understand at least a bit more. And that 'guilty' default setting is partly why I feel we ought to teach our boys to never, never, never touch a woman before she touches you and all nonverbal 'signals' be DAMNED--I mean that quite literally! Teach our sons to be masters of their own hormones and make no move from them except if she moves first and does so unmistakably! Even without the ache from my early life that seems like a very good idea; feel free to weigh in on that too.
How about you, brothers? Ready to grow up, or grow further? Let's go together.

OPEN LETTER TO KIM JONG-UN

Sir,

I don't know whether you and our current 'president' are playing some sort of juvenile game of 'chicken' or whether you'd really rather deliberately destroy our country and, with it, the whole earth. Either you believe your own propaganda (rather like the Great Orange Cheeto in the White House) or you know that the 'nuclear winter' which would follow a nuclear war (and we only learned this during your young lifetime) would mean nearly all surviving life on the planet would starve to death! Is this why you've decided you'd rather be able to destroy our country than negotiate?
Mr. Trump does not represent most of the people; through an anomaly of our Constitution (an anomaly overdue for abolition) he won with fewer actual votes than Mrs. Clinton--but I'm sure you know this too. In any case, none of us like seeing any new nuclear power but, if you can convince more of our people that you can be trusted (me, for openers) we can be convinced to live with that if you are prepared to be other than a rogue power!
This is not a plea; we are all free people and we sue for peace before no one, especially not our own leaders, let alone those of other countries! I just wonder if you're as irrational as Trump or whether that's what you want him and his subordinates to believe. If you're more rational, I promise not to tell them. I hope and believe the pair of you are trying to convince each other that you are biocidal little madmen, but I can tell you dam' few of we who watch and pray are enjoying the show! I certainly am not! If you show me you are rational, I shall be immensely relieved but will not tell the media, at least not till this becomes academic--and you shall see me keep my word!
I am no one in particular: I am a man in my early sixties with a wife and no children, although we do have three dogs and a cat as pets which we cherish, as well as friends and other relations not as close as children would be. So you can see I haven't much personal stake in seeing life continue beyond our own lifetimes. But sometimes we look at our pets and I think of all the innocent animals who we'd be vaporizing, starving in nuclear winter and God only knows what else--and the thought of inflicting such harm on all those innocent creatures is too much for a plain, small man like myself. I have some acquaintance with history, geography, literature and language as well and I'm still open to learning. As we say in my language, I take what both my government and the mainstream media tell us with a fairly liberal amount of salt.
I humbly ask you, young sir, to consider these things if you haven't already and to seek other ways which will enable negotiations to recommence between your country, my country, the PRC, the ROK, Japan and probably Russia as the main actors in northeast Asia. And whatever you tell me to convince me of your rationality, I shall keep it to myself for the foreseeable future.

Anxiously,
Brian S. Meadows
anglohebraicus@gmail.com